If you ever feel that in spite of your best intentions and even great effort, you still seem unable to create and/or maintain the loving relationship you desire, then the following approach might help you.
Take a moment to reflect on your parents and your upbringing as a child. Make a list of what your mother and father believed about sex and love.
Now, consider the following list and answer for yourself, did you parents believe and tell you at an appropriate age that:
* sex is a gift from God and it is your right to enjoy it fully;
* sexual energy creates great pleasure and expands love;
* it is important to make love to yourself to find out what you like so you can tell your lover;
* moving sexual energy is healthy for your body, mind and spirit;
* it is your responsibly to achieve orgasms;
* you have the right to ask how you want to be touched and kissed, and where;
* you take turns in giving and receiving pleasure;
* before making love, clear out resentments that might create a bigger disturbance if not addressed;
* making love out of duty creates a rift in your soul;
* looking into each other's eyes in a soft way increases your openness to give and receive love.
If you answered no to several of these points, or if this list is quite different from your first list of your parents' beliefs about love and sex, you might consider doing the work of changing those beliefs into your own empowering beliefs.
Perhaps your parents themselves were never exposed to these ideas, and they might have felt shame or guilt about their own sexuality.
In that case, even if they told you all or some of the above, you might have received instead their unconscious message that sex was shameful.
That happens because as a child you live on an emotional level, so you absorb what your parents believe in their guts more than what they tell you with words, even when they believe their words at an intellectual, thinking level.
Now that you are a grown up, it is your right to check in with yourself and see where you are still unconsciously faithful to your parents' beliefs. This may be challenging emotionally - you took in what they believed because you loved them, and changing those beliefs might feel to you like a betrayal of your love.
You can both love your parents for who they are, without judgement, and also find and own your own beliefs that will empower you to a richer and more pleasurable life.
To bring those beliefs up into the conscious mind --where beliefs can be changed --takes intention, introspection, commitment, and a special breathing which I call "Ocean Breath," one of the most important Tantric breathing techniques.
As you know, unless the foundation of a building is firm, the building may collapse. Make sure that the foundation of your love-building is strong, so you can build it as high as you want in strength and safety.
Blessings,
Carla Tara
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Tuesday, August 5, 2008
Sunday, August 3, 2008
A Letter I Received
I was delighted to receive this testimonial recently, and I wanted to share it with you because it touched my heart and I know it will inspire you to take another step on your journey into Intimacy and Love.
Carla, your book "Lessons from a Tantric Tango Dancer: A Journey into Intimacy, Relationships and Love" inspired me to breathe more fully, discover more of who I am and have the courage to experience more fulfillment and joy in my life.
Your lessons on how to change negative beliefs into positive, life affirming ones are simple and really work.
Both your vision and your down-to-earth techniques have helped me move through a couple of difficult experiences maintaining my balance and keeping my heart open. Thank you for your generosity in sharing yourself.
Miranda Fisher
Receiving testimonials like this inspires me to deepen and expand my work to help you to create a life of more pleasure.
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Carla, your book "Lessons from a Tantric Tango Dancer: A Journey into Intimacy, Relationships and Love" inspired me to breathe more fully, discover more of who I am and have the courage to experience more fulfillment and joy in my life.
Your lessons on how to change negative beliefs into positive, life affirming ones are simple and really work.
Both your vision and your down-to-earth techniques have helped me move through a couple of difficult experiences maintaining my balance and keeping my heart open. Thank you for your generosity in sharing yourself.
Miranda Fisher
Receiving testimonials like this inspires me to deepen and expand my work to help you to create a life of more pleasure.
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Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Why Tantric Healing is Essential
We are born whole with an infinite potential for joy and ecstasy. We feel entitled to being taking care of. We are enthusiastic about discovering our world.
However, many people have been wounded either by neglect or by being treated as a burden from mother, father, or other family member. This has contributed greatly to the erosion of our trust in life.
Without that safety, we cannot open up fully to experience our full potential.
Healing means restoring you to your original wholeness.
A trained Tantrika can help you reconnect with the Universal Mother, the Goddess, who treats you like the special person you really are. We all have the archetype of the Goddess/Mother within.
As you restore trust you can start feeling worthy of the infinite potential of love. Once this basic trust that your survival is assured, other wounding can be addressed.
Another source of wounding for many people is the way we were taught the restricting rules of society. "Don't do this, don't do that. . ." If you are a boy: "Don't cry!" If you are a girl: "don't be angry!" You started feeling boxed in.
Every time you suffered a shocking experience when someone shamed you for feeling sexual or hurt you in any way, you locked up some of you natural, exuberant passion you were born with.
Remnants of sexual wounding are usually found in the water-based sexual center, and a skilled Tantrika can help you melt it and experience your full sexual potential.
If you were improperly touched or sexually abused, you probably felt powerless because the abuser obviously did not ask your permission. So you might have a block in your power center.
When you are "used" for someone else's pleasure your brain connects sexual pleasure only with the genitals and not with the heart, thus creating the split between sex and love.
And some of our religions have done similar damage to our psyche by creating the split between sex and spirit.
In my sessions, I set and hold the intention of connecting with and opening all the energy centers.
As a healer, a tantrika creates a safe space for your feelings and listens to your words, and especially pays attention to images and body language. Your unconscious reveals itself through images, sensations and body language.
Expanded sexual energy always helps unblock when you feel safe.
Transformation happens when we befriend the unconscious and establish a healthy connection to the present time. Unproductive or negative patterns can dissolve and you can restore your full potential for a fulfilling love life.
Tantric healing opens up enormous amount of energy that becomes available for your lovemaking.
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However, many people have been wounded either by neglect or by being treated as a burden from mother, father, or other family member. This has contributed greatly to the erosion of our trust in life.
Without that safety, we cannot open up fully to experience our full potential.
Healing means restoring you to your original wholeness.
A trained Tantrika can help you reconnect with the Universal Mother, the Goddess, who treats you like the special person you really are. We all have the archetype of the Goddess/Mother within.
As you restore trust you can start feeling worthy of the infinite potential of love. Once this basic trust that your survival is assured, other wounding can be addressed.
Another source of wounding for many people is the way we were taught the restricting rules of society. "Don't do this, don't do that. . ." If you are a boy: "Don't cry!" If you are a girl: "don't be angry!" You started feeling boxed in.
Every time you suffered a shocking experience when someone shamed you for feeling sexual or hurt you in any way, you locked up some of you natural, exuberant passion you were born with.
Remnants of sexual wounding are usually found in the water-based sexual center, and a skilled Tantrika can help you melt it and experience your full sexual potential.
If you were improperly touched or sexually abused, you probably felt powerless because the abuser obviously did not ask your permission. So you might have a block in your power center.
When you are "used" for someone else's pleasure your brain connects sexual pleasure only with the genitals and not with the heart, thus creating the split between sex and love.
And some of our religions have done similar damage to our psyche by creating the split between sex and spirit.
In my sessions, I set and hold the intention of connecting with and opening all the energy centers.
As a healer, a tantrika creates a safe space for your feelings and listens to your words, and especially pays attention to images and body language. Your unconscious reveals itself through images, sensations and body language.
Expanded sexual energy always helps unblock when you feel safe.
Transformation happens when we befriend the unconscious and establish a healthy connection to the present time. Unproductive or negative patterns can dissolve and you can restore your full potential for a fulfilling love life.
Tantric healing opens up enormous amount of energy that becomes available for your lovemaking.
Read more >>
Thursday, July 3, 2008
Listen to Carla Talk About Tantra and Rejuvenation
Francesca Gentille, host of "Sex, Tantra, and Kama Sutra," interviews Carla about Tantra as a healing process, and a rejuvenation and relationship tool.
Learn how Tantra moves beyond psychotherapy to develop the emotional-physical bond and rejuvenates the body and mind. Carla explains how to work with a Tantrika, convenient rituals you can do at home to establish deep connection with your lover, and how to use Tantric communication to open your heart to more connected and authentic sex.
Listen to the podcast >>
Read the transcript of the interview >>
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Learn how Tantra moves beyond psychotherapy to develop the emotional-physical bond and rejuvenates the body and mind. Carla explains how to work with a Tantrika, convenient rituals you can do at home to establish deep connection with your lover, and how to use Tantric communication to open your heart to more connected and authentic sex.
Listen to the podcast >>
Read the transcript of the interview >>
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Friday, June 20, 2008
Tantra Helps Maintain Youthfulness
You might know individuals in their forties, fifties, sixties and even older who think, act, and look much younger than their chronological age. Their youthful attitude permeates their entire life. They keep their love relationships fresh, exciting, sensuous and intimate. Couples’ feelings for each other deepen and sexual attraction remains as strong as it was when they first fell in love.
These people live a Tantric life whether or not they have studied the Tantric secrets.
Some people are directly attuned to this knowledge. After all, the entire knowledge of the whole universe comes through to us if our mind is open and quiet enough to let it in. To receive the knowledge you have to have a firm intention to receive it, and a mind that is strong and flexible enough be open to it.
If your mind tends to be scattered, or stuck in old paradigms, Tantric training can help you. Tantra can also help if you have a job that requires you to be “inside your mind” a lot.
Through tantric training you learn to focus your mind on what works to achieve the deepest connection with body, mind and spirit. You are paying attention to the sensations in your body and you breathe deeply so they expand into higher excitement.
You are letting go of all thoughts based on comparisons, you are letting go of goals of performance, and you trust your natural sexuality, which is not mind-driven.
Sexual performance remains vigorous since you can sustain the excitement of riding the waves preceding the ejaculation much longer than you used to before practicing Tantra.
And yet, there is more to Tantra than enhanced sexual relationships. A Tantric lifestyle is all-encompassing, and includes more flexibility in mind and body, radiant health, feeling more youthful, and higher self-esteem. All of this serves to enhance both the work life and the family life. Health, flexibility, enhanced sexuality, and youthfulness become a self-feeding loop, constantly leading to higher vitality and inner satisfaction.
Those who understand and practice the Tantric principles realize that they have found the true Fountain of Youth.
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These people live a Tantric life whether or not they have studied the Tantric secrets.
Some people are directly attuned to this knowledge. After all, the entire knowledge of the whole universe comes through to us if our mind is open and quiet enough to let it in. To receive the knowledge you have to have a firm intention to receive it, and a mind that is strong and flexible enough be open to it.
If your mind tends to be scattered, or stuck in old paradigms, Tantric training can help you. Tantra can also help if you have a job that requires you to be “inside your mind” a lot.
Through tantric training you learn to focus your mind on what works to achieve the deepest connection with body, mind and spirit. You are paying attention to the sensations in your body and you breathe deeply so they expand into higher excitement.
You are letting go of all thoughts based on comparisons, you are letting go of goals of performance, and you trust your natural sexuality, which is not mind-driven.
Sexual performance remains vigorous since you can sustain the excitement of riding the waves preceding the ejaculation much longer than you used to before practicing Tantra.
And yet, there is more to Tantra than enhanced sexual relationships. A Tantric lifestyle is all-encompassing, and includes more flexibility in mind and body, radiant health, feeling more youthful, and higher self-esteem. All of this serves to enhance both the work life and the family life. Health, flexibility, enhanced sexuality, and youthfulness become a self-feeding loop, constantly leading to higher vitality and inner satisfaction.
Those who understand and practice the Tantric principles realize that they have found the true Fountain of Youth.
Read more >>
Thursday, June 12, 2008
The Five Types of Yoni: Part Three - The Lily
Again, we invite men to really notice everything about a woman: the way she moves, the way she tilts her head, the different kinds of smiling.
Every man I talk to is extremely happy when he sees his woman happy. There is an altruistic way men love their women.
One of the most important ways a man can honor his woman is to notice and admire her yoni. It is now common knowledge that every woman has a different yoni just as every person has a different finger print.
We are looking at yet another type of yoni today.
The Third Type of Yoni – The Lily
Her clitoris is several inches from the vaginal opening
She enjoys a lot of clitoral stimulation especially over her long, smooth tunnel-like hood
Her inner lips are thin, but a little thicker than the tulip yoni.
Her vaginal cavity is deep and naturally very wet.
Her Amrita tastes sweet. So lovers, please make sure you get to taste it.
She enjoys lots of foreplay and oral sex; she likes a lover who starts softly, almost just breathing on her, but is invited to go all the way to hard sucking when she's really turned on.
She likes squeezing on the sides--also called shafts--of the clitoris. She often increases her stimulation by sliding her hooded clitoris back and forth and around.
During intercourse she likes woman on top, doggy-style and side to side with her man's leg between her legs. She prefers positions that allow for grinding of the pubic bone.
She can accommodates and enjoy long lingam.
Enjoy making love to her yoni, but don’t forget to look into her eyes to let your love come through to her soul.
Friday, May 2, 2008
Personal Appearance at Sedona Conference
Next week, I will be speaking at the Spring Conference & Gathering for Sacred Sexuality Healers, Teachers & Practitioners at Sedona Temple in Sedona, Arizona. My topic will be how Tantra can be used to unblock the buried pain of past trauma and heal past wounds.
The healers and teachers at Sedona Temple are wonderful people, and I am blessed to know several of them personally. Their 3-day annual conference brings together over 200 sex healers from around the country and internationally, and is one of my favorite gatherings of the Tantric community. This year, the conference theme is "BEING - The Difference That Makes a Difference," a message that we can all embrace and share.
If you are exploring a future as a Daka/Dakini, this is a wonderful chance to be exposed to a wide variety of teachers and yogis. You can sample some of the best of the Tantric world from around the country.
You can find information on the conference and registration details at the Sedona Temple website.
Be sure to say hello!
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The healers and teachers at Sedona Temple are wonderful people, and I am blessed to know several of them personally. Their 3-day annual conference brings together over 200 sex healers from around the country and internationally, and is one of my favorite gatherings of the Tantric community. This year, the conference theme is "BEING - The Difference That Makes a Difference," a message that we can all embrace and share.
If you are exploring a future as a Daka/Dakini, this is a wonderful chance to be exposed to a wide variety of teachers and yogis. You can sample some of the best of the Tantric world from around the country.
You can find information on the conference and registration details at the Sedona Temple website.
Be sure to say hello!
Read more >>
Friday, February 15, 2008
An Unusual Valentine's Day Celebration
I received a phone call from a dear friend, Marylyn, wishing me a great Valentine's day and telling me she did not have a lover bringing her chocolate and flowers, but she had a great time. Her voice was consistent with the news. She sounded turned on and happy. "She definitely enjoys being by herself", I thought.
As though she had heard my thought, she said, "I do enjoy spending time with myself; I usually read a book, dance by myself, or play my guitar. But today I've decided to do something to have others feel enjoyment about being alive."
"So I've decided to go to an old folks home to help the people there to feel some joy. Many old people have been parked at a home and seldom see their loved ones."
What Marylyn said made me realize that when you are alone there is a tendency to interpret this as if you are not loved. Marylyn distinguished between being alone and being lonely. Alone can be a high state where you feel united with your higher self and with others spiritually; lonely is a state of feeling separate.
Marylyn went to the old folks home and showed the old folks a good connecting breathing exercise that she had learned in my Tantra class. They especially loved making a sexy sound on their exhalation. When she saw great aliveness coming back into these people, she started playing old songs which they could relate to. They loved them.
They started singing along, and feeling energized and connected with each other through the music that they shared. Soon their innate vitality came through clearly, sharing bright smiles to each other and to Marylyn.
Marylyn was beaming, her heart overflowing with joy for being able to be a catalyst for so much love. Her own enthusiasm for life and for music was beaming from every cell of her body.
Marylyn had a Tantric experience, as she put it. Her heart opened up very wide, and she felt energy spiraling up her spine similar to when she had sex with her lover. She realized that you don't have to touch genitals to have a tantric experience. This realization was coming to her as a thank you from the Goddess in her for her dedication to sharing her love unconditionally.
Another friend called me later to tell me that her lover came to visit her from far away unexpectedly and sparks were flying. She asked me for advice on how to deal with so much energy. Of course, the advice I gave her is to take deeper breaths and connect with each with a slower approach to lovemaking. Take time to kiss slowly while looking into each other's eyes. To enjoy each sensation of each touch or love expression as though your whole bodies are melting into each other.
How was your Valentine's Day? If it was not what you wanted, know you have the choice to create one every day.
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As though she had heard my thought, she said, "I do enjoy spending time with myself; I usually read a book, dance by myself, or play my guitar. But today I've decided to do something to have others feel enjoyment about being alive."
"So I've decided to go to an old folks home to help the people there to feel some joy. Many old people have been parked at a home and seldom see their loved ones."
What Marylyn said made me realize that when you are alone there is a tendency to interpret this as if you are not loved. Marylyn distinguished between being alone and being lonely. Alone can be a high state where you feel united with your higher self and with others spiritually; lonely is a state of feeling separate.
Marylyn went to the old folks home and showed the old folks a good connecting breathing exercise that she had learned in my Tantra class. They especially loved making a sexy sound on their exhalation. When she saw great aliveness coming back into these people, she started playing old songs which they could relate to. They loved them.
They started singing along, and feeling energized and connected with each other through the music that they shared. Soon their innate vitality came through clearly, sharing bright smiles to each other and to Marylyn.
Marylyn was beaming, her heart overflowing with joy for being able to be a catalyst for so much love. Her own enthusiasm for life and for music was beaming from every cell of her body.
Marylyn had a Tantric experience, as she put it. Her heart opened up very wide, and she felt energy spiraling up her spine similar to when she had sex with her lover. She realized that you don't have to touch genitals to have a tantric experience. This realization was coming to her as a thank you from the Goddess in her for her dedication to sharing her love unconditionally.
Another friend called me later to tell me that her lover came to visit her from far away unexpectedly and sparks were flying. She asked me for advice on how to deal with so much energy. Of course, the advice I gave her is to take deeper breaths and connect with each with a slower approach to lovemaking. Take time to kiss slowly while looking into each other's eyes. To enjoy each sensation of each touch or love expression as though your whole bodies are melting into each other.
How was your Valentine's Day? If it was not what you wanted, know you have the choice to create one every day.
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What do you think?
Sunday, January 20, 2008
A Day in the Life of a Tantra Master
I wake up this morning feeling grateful that I am alive. Silently, I formulate words of gratefulness and my heart responds to them, beating more enthusiastically. My mouth is shaping a wonderful smile and my eyes open widely.
Then I take time to tune into the pleasurable current of energy that wakes up my whole body. I place one hand on my heart and the other on my belly, connecting love with power.
Next, I gently place one hand on my throat and the other on my genitals to feel kinesthetically the wonderful connection between the communication center and the sex center.
As women, we know that expressing pleasant thoughts and receiving communication that shows we are seen by our lover opens our hearts. And once our heart is open, the energy spirals easily to our sex center and back and forth increasing the energy, preparing us for the best lovemaking.
I’m now going through another level of awakening by taking a wonderful shower. Rivulets of water flowing down every inch of my body create great pleasure. I feel the touch of thousands of water droplets cleansing me and opening up my skin to breathe more freely and feel more vividly anything touching it, from my sheer silky clothes to the caress of a loving hand.
Then I sit to meditate in front of my table which is covered with colorful silk, adorned with flowers, a candle and an image of a Tantric couple in bliss.
I meditate on my breath, my closest connection to life, deepening it and slowing it down, each breath another opportunity to unite the outer with the inner, consciousness with energy . . . until I experience an exhilarating union between the female and the male energy within me, which takes me to an even higher level of connection between my body and my spirit.
I am experiencing the marriage of human wholeness that was never supposed to be broken.
After this nourishing morning ritual, I am ready to be of service to those people who want to understand and ultimately experience this connection.
Whom am I going to help today? Who is going to call? Who is going to make a last minute appointment? Just habitual questions…. I actually don’t need to know the answers, because anything that happens is going to be taken care of by the guidance and the inspiration that flows forth from a central core of infinite love and wisdom.
I know that a wonderful couple has scheduled three hours this afternoon. I know he wants his woman to more open to express her sexuality and ask for what she wants and sometimes to initiate lovemaking.
She wants him to be more gentle, and take more time in the foreplay.
When I inquired during our telephone conversation whether she had asked him that, she said: “No, I don’t want to hurt his feelings.” I understood that she was afraid she might hurt his ego. She knows he is convinced he is a great lover. How could she dare to tell him she would like something different?
I’m excited to have the opportunity to help her open her mind to a new reality,
one that sees her man not as a someone she has to protect, but as a friend, a partner in love, who will be excited to know what she desires from him so they can together reach the highest possible orgasmic connection.
I know she wants him to look into her eyes and see who she really is, present before him, not as a projection of who she is to him in his mind. When she sees this true awareness of her in his eyes, she will be inspired to find the words to ask for that and more.
She can initiate the lovemaking with her smile, melt her man with her powerfully soft approach. That’s how she’s going to initiate the connection this afternoon… who knows though, some other approach might come through. I am open to receive the directions from my core as I keep connecting with the infinite wisdom and love that we are. My core and her core have the same wisdom. Only in some of us, that wisdom is clouded by limiting beliefs that we have unconsciously acquired.
She will be able to communicate to her lover honestly and softly, inviting a similarly clear, honest and soft reaction. Such communication engenders trust in both partners.
A communication that makes you feel trusting is a prerequisite to love and to ecstasy. Ecstatic moments are essential for the health of the body, the emotions and the soul. We need to create more time for those nourishing moments.
Our sex center loves to relax and vibrate with the joy of being alive, especially in the presence of trust.
Read more >>
Then I take time to tune into the pleasurable current of energy that wakes up my whole body. I place one hand on my heart and the other on my belly, connecting love with power.
Next, I gently place one hand on my throat and the other on my genitals to feel kinesthetically the wonderful connection between the communication center and the sex center.
As women, we know that expressing pleasant thoughts and receiving communication that shows we are seen by our lover opens our hearts. And once our heart is open, the energy spirals easily to our sex center and back and forth increasing the energy, preparing us for the best lovemaking.
I’m now going through another level of awakening by taking a wonderful shower. Rivulets of water flowing down every inch of my body create great pleasure. I feel the touch of thousands of water droplets cleansing me and opening up my skin to breathe more freely and feel more vividly anything touching it, from my sheer silky clothes to the caress of a loving hand.
Then I sit to meditate in front of my table which is covered with colorful silk, adorned with flowers, a candle and an image of a Tantric couple in bliss.
I meditate on my breath, my closest connection to life, deepening it and slowing it down, each breath another opportunity to unite the outer with the inner, consciousness with energy . . . until I experience an exhilarating union between the female and the male energy within me, which takes me to an even higher level of connection between my body and my spirit.
I am experiencing the marriage of human wholeness that was never supposed to be broken.
After this nourishing morning ritual, I am ready to be of service to those people who want to understand and ultimately experience this connection.
Whom am I going to help today? Who is going to call? Who is going to make a last minute appointment? Just habitual questions…. I actually don’t need to know the answers, because anything that happens is going to be taken care of by the guidance and the inspiration that flows forth from a central core of infinite love and wisdom.
I know that a wonderful couple has scheduled three hours this afternoon. I know he wants his woman to more open to express her sexuality and ask for what she wants and sometimes to initiate lovemaking.
She wants him to be more gentle, and take more time in the foreplay.
When I inquired during our telephone conversation whether she had asked him that, she said: “No, I don’t want to hurt his feelings.” I understood that she was afraid she might hurt his ego. She knows he is convinced he is a great lover. How could she dare to tell him she would like something different?
I’m excited to have the opportunity to help her open her mind to a new reality,
one that sees her man not as a someone she has to protect, but as a friend, a partner in love, who will be excited to know what she desires from him so they can together reach the highest possible orgasmic connection.
I know she wants him to look into her eyes and see who she really is, present before him, not as a projection of who she is to him in his mind. When she sees this true awareness of her in his eyes, she will be inspired to find the words to ask for that and more.
She can initiate the lovemaking with her smile, melt her man with her powerfully soft approach. That’s how she’s going to initiate the connection this afternoon… who knows though, some other approach might come through. I am open to receive the directions from my core as I keep connecting with the infinite wisdom and love that we are. My core and her core have the same wisdom. Only in some of us, that wisdom is clouded by limiting beliefs that we have unconsciously acquired.
She will be able to communicate to her lover honestly and softly, inviting a similarly clear, honest and soft reaction. Such communication engenders trust in both partners.
A communication that makes you feel trusting is a prerequisite to love and to ecstasy. Ecstatic moments are essential for the health of the body, the emotions and the soul. We need to create more time for those nourishing moments.
Our sex center loves to relax and vibrate with the joy of being alive, especially in the presence of trust.
Read more >>
Monday, October 29, 2007
Tantric Sex Increases Mental Power
Ancient Tantric knowledge makes us aware of the importance of sex to keep the brain functioning well into older age. In fact, great sex is the most pleasurable way to keep the brain functioning at its peak.
Science is now starting to prove it in a small way.
There are some attempts being made to measure how sex hormones influence the brain. In fact, a breakthrough study at the University of Calgary --published Jan 2003 in the prestigious Science Journal -- says that a hormone stimulated by sex may cause the production of new brain cells.
It would be interesting to see research done on Tantric lovemaking! It might be the next breakthrough…. In fact, during Tantric lovemaking you stimulate your body and your brain for much longer periods of time, and take it to higher levels than in regular sex.
Tantric sex requires complete presence to what is happening in your body and in your partner’s body. There are trillions of cells in the body, and all are involved in feeling sensations. The involvement is astronomical compared to that of regular sex.
So, it is easy to understand that if you have two or three hours of Tantric connection, you will have flooded your brain with pleasurable information that produces happy hormones and hormones that increase desire and bonding.
What can make your brain “sluggish” is being stuck in habits and routine. The brain loves newness, and Tantra suggests that you use different ways of connecting sexually, different positions, different ways of kissing, different places to make love in.
When you stay in the moment, you are as creative as children who are not habit bound yet.
Here is your Tantric tip:
Touch your lover with a different touch, for instance slower and more consciously than usual. Most women that I see in my sessions complain that their man moves his hands too fast and almost mechanically. Try a different way of touching and notice the results you are creating in your and her brain!
Have great sex and expand your brain!
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Thursday, October 25, 2007
Lessons from a Tantric Tango Dancer
Carla tells us how powerful orgasms can be life changing with the proper breathing technique and a partner who’s not a wimp!
Carla weaves her fascinating life’s experiences with secrets and lessons of Tantra and Tango on a tapestry of the myth of Adam and Eve. Her wisdom touches the core of the art of intimacy. Added to all of this is her expertise as a psychotherapist and as a Love Coach.
Thank you so much for making my session relaxing and informative and very nurturing. I’ve learned so much! It took me a long time to bring up the courage to ask for coaching because I was scared and ashamed that at 31 I was still a virgin. I never had the self-esteem to make love to a woman. And I did not know where to start. As soon as I walked in and received your hug I knew I could relax and trust your guidance ... I don’t know how you did it but you managed to move deeply into my strengths and guided me to believe in myself and my natural ability to love fully. The tantric techniques were very helpful as well. Shortly after your coaching session I took the girl I had been in love with -- but was too scared to be sexual with -- to a weekend vacation and I’m excited to tell you I’m no longer a virgin. She told me I’m a good lover! Thank God for people like you-Anthony
There are many priestesses of love but only one Carla. Her uniquely sensitive approach will guide you to the next level of intimacy as she reveals the good news about orgasm and the healing power of pleasure. Betty Dodson, PhD, author of Sex for One and Orgasms for Two
In this TRULY exceptional book Carla Tara shares invaluable Tantric lessons that will inspire and guide you to:
Carla weaves her fascinating life’s experiences with secrets and lessons of Tantra and Tango on a tapestry of the myth of Adam and Eve. Her wisdom touches the core of the art of intimacy. Added to all of this is her expertise as a psychotherapist and as a Love Coach.
This is what people say about her book and working with her:
In a stunning tour de force, Carla Tara has embodied the spirit of Tantra, weaving myth, tantric practice, and Argentine tango into an irresistible dance of words and ideas. It is exciting reading that goes to the core of the art of intimacy -Maeve Fry, writer and opera singer
Thank you so much for making my session relaxing and informative and very nurturing. I’ve learned so much! It took me a long time to bring up the courage to ask for coaching because I was scared and ashamed that at 31 I was still a virgin. I never had the self-esteem to make love to a woman. And I did not know where to start. As soon as I walked in and received your hug I knew I could relax and trust your guidance ... I don’t know how you did it but you managed to move deeply into my strengths and guided me to believe in myself and my natural ability to love fully. The tantric techniques were very helpful as well. Shortly after your coaching session I took the girl I had been in love with -- but was too scared to be sexual with -- to a weekend vacation and I’m excited to tell you I’m no longer a virgin. She told me I’m a good lover! Thank God for people like you-Anthony
There are many priestesses of love but only one Carla. Her uniquely sensitive approach will guide you to the next level of intimacy as she reveals the good news about orgasm and the healing power of pleasure. Betty Dodson, PhD, author of Sex for One and Orgasms for Two
In this TRULY exceptional book Carla Tara shares invaluable Tantric lessons that will inspire and guide you to:
*Change limiting beliefs into life expanding and growth oriented ones
*Live courageously extracting the juice of life even when circumstances are challenging
*Use tantric secrets to reach your highest potential and find out from Carla what some of those tantric secrets are
*Heal wounds that might have contributed to disconnecting your heart from your sex center so you can experience and enjoy the fullness of your connection
*Open up to love responsibly and passionately, yet with spontaneity and innocence
*Get to really know yourself as both human and divine
*Develop and trust your intuition
*Be conscious, curious, creative and honest
*Love consciously and passionately retaining your child-like innocence
*Cultivate a deep harmonious connection with yourself and your lovers
*Retain passion in a relationship by connecting often on a core level through kind, honest, supportive communication expressing your feelings, needs, and desires
*Bring more orgasmic response into all aspects of your life
Carla’s book and philosophy resonates with The Secret. She has helped many men and women, and this would make an exciting interview for your show. Visit her website at: www.1tantra.com.
The book is available at Amazon.com
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